Reactiveness

Let’s talk about social dynamics.

In every interaction, there’s the person who’s setting the rhythm while the other is reacting. Usually, the person who’s talking is the one making others react (but not necessarily).

Imagine one person being the oak tree and the other the squirrel. The squirrel is the one running around the oak tree while the tree is just standing still, unaffected by the running of the squirrel. The squirrel is reacting to the tree. This is the same for human interactions.

But what is this “reacting” anyway?

Being in reaction means being affected by the words or action/inaction of the other person. In other words, it’s being at the effect and not at the cause.

So, it’s also possible not to do the talking and have the other person be in reaction instead. E.g., if someone would yell at you while you remain cool and calmly look into their eyes – that would mean that they’re the ones in reaction.

In a sense, it’s about being in control. There’s always someone whose frame is stronger, and a stronger frame will eat the weaker ones. It’s not something negative or bad; it’s just how it works.

K.

Probably the best home work out app

Gyms are closed, even the outdoor ones. This pushed me to find a way to train at home harder than the regular average Joe’s few pushups and a couple of dumbbell exercises. Of course, doing some exercise is better than nothing, but I was looking for something serious.

So, I discovered an app called Centr. The man behind it is Chris Hemsworth – the actor who played Thor in the 2011 Hollywood blockbuster.

And, let me tell you, this is one of the best apps I’ve ever used. The exercises can be unforgiving (a good thing!), but the workouts vary each day and are interesting. Almost no equipment is required – and the exercises that do – have an alternative.

As far as I understand, the workouts are put together by the same professionals that have worked with Chris himself. In fact, it actually almost feels as if I have a training session every day with a different fitness expert. Absolutely awesome!

In addition to different video training guides for each day, you also get a meal plan and guided meditation exercises. I don’t care about these, as I know what I’m doing when it comes to food, and I don’t need an app for meditating. However, when it comes to workout apps – this one is the Maserati.

So, I thought to share this discovery – if it helps someone – awesome! If not, nothing lost.

As a side note: this is how marketing works at its best: create a product so good that its users promote it themselves without being told to do so and getting absolutely nothing for it.

K.

Labeling feelings is garbage

Some books recommend labeling feelings/emotions. E.g., that it’s a good idea to put a name on a negative feeling, so it’d be easier to deal with it.

That’s total garbage. Labeling doesn’t do anything. 

Feelings are too complex of a phenomenon to describe them with some words. But that’s not even the main point. The main thing is that feelings are to be felt not labeled.

The whole labeling process implies that emotions can be intellectually understood, described, and then sorted into folders for reference. It’s not how it works.

There’s no point in trying to find a label – the feelings can be experienced without it – I’m sure everyone agrees with it. So, feel the feeling, and don’t worry about the name.

K.